Overcoming Negativity and Hardwiring Positivity
Why do we focus on the negative?
Leaning towards the negative is completely normal.
As the human mind evolved over several hundred, thousand years, it was vitally important to learn from negative experiences so that we could outwit predators and avoid dangers. So now the mind registers negative experiences very quickly and highlights them and stores them in memory.
This helped us remember how to avoid potential future threats.
On the other hand, positive experiences don’t register in the same way. They need to be held in awareness for some time before they get stored in our memory.The problem with this negativity bias...
The problem with this negativity bias...
We don’t live in a world where there are constant threats and dangers like the thousands of years gone by, but our brain still operates in the same way. Today, we continue to pay attention to the negative and that means, we can develop a growing tendency to be pessimistic and stressed. We can become sensitive to upsets and grievances and resentments. It can also knock our confidence and really cloud our ability to see things clearly.
Dr. Rick Hanson, psychologist and brain researcher, explains that positive experiences are like teflon for the mind – they slip right off – whereas negative experiences are like velcro. This is a great metaphor for understanding how ‘sticky’ negative experiences can be in the mind.
This wiring can be detrimental to our happiness.
I’m sure you’ve noticed this tendency in your own life, where you receive several compliments and perhaps, one criticism. Which do you remember? I’m sure, you are like most people and took the criticism to heart, mulling it over in your mind.
Hope for Happiness
Your brain can learn new tricks. That is GOOD News. Research shows that thinking new and different thoughts create new neural pathways. When we change our thinking to support our happiness, the negative neural pathways shrink and get pruned away and the the positive neural pathways widen and deepen. This resembles what happens in your brain when you learn a language or musical instrument or any new skill for that matter.
In summary, you can reverse this negativity bias and raise your happiness set-point. It’s vital to learn to question your thoughts. So many of our thoughts are untrue and it is those false beliefs that cause our unhappiness.
Register the positive experiences and become a master of your mind and live a happy life.
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